Interview with Alison Calfee - "It's Okay Not to Be Okay"

In a compelling episode of the "Leading with Heart Podcast," I delve into the life and experiences of Alison Calfee, an Air Force veteran, mother, and mental health advocate. Her journey illustrates the importance of prioritizing well-being and self-advocacy amidst societal pressures.

The Turning Point: Choosing Self-Care

For Alison, turning 40 triggered a transformation where she prioritized her well-being over societal judgments. She shares candidly about her darkest moments, including suicidal thoughts and intense negative self-talk. It’s a powerful reminder to all of us that appearing "okay" often masks deeper struggles.

The Power of Self-Advocacy

A vital aspect of Alison's journey includes advocating for herself during a primary care appointment, which led to crucial therapy referrals. Navigating through various therapy styles and therapists, her experience underscores that seeking help is a crucial step toward healing.

I pose a reflective question for our listeners: “What is the cost of not changing?” The price of neglecting mental health can be immense, while the act of seeking help can pave the way to authentic well-being.

Shifting Cultures: Embracing Mental Health in the Military

Alison also discusses positive cultural shifts within the military regarding mental health. The movement towards normalizing adjunct therapies and resiliency skills represents significant progress. Still, both Alison and I agree that ongoing efforts are needed to eradicate persistence stigmas and normalize mental health conversations.

I express optimism about new mental health resources and the growing number of emotionally intelligent leaders. Yet, continuous advocacy is essential.

Building Community: The Role of Support Networks

Community support, especially through organizations like Comeback Yoga, played a crucial role in Alison’s recovery. Comeback Yoga offers free yoga to veterans and their families, fostering healing through shared experiences and support. Alison teaches Yoga Nidra, a class that helps veterans process trauma via deep relaxation and guided meditation.

“Community played a crucial role in my healing,” Alison emphasizes, showcasing the power of shared empathy.

Readiness for Change: Personal Growth Through Reflection

Alison’s story highlights the difference between willingness and readiness to change. Despite initial willingness, genuine healing began only when she was ready to confront her issues, a transformation catalyzed during the COVID-19 pandemic with time for self-reflection.

Encouragement and Action

Alison ends the episode with heartfelt encouragement for listeners struggling with mental health. She reassures that it’s okay to struggle and reaching out for help is a sign of strength. Her journey is a testament to the value of proactively addressing mental health and the untapped potential in acknowledging one's struggles.

In a world where maintaining a facade often feels safer, Alison Calfee’s message is clear: It’s time to prioritize ourselves, seek needed help, and foster communities that support genuine well-being.

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RESOURCES:

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